Honouring Marriage

Honour Marriage and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband.
Heb 13:4 (Message)

A healthy marriage is a pillar of strength and life to any family. If we want healthy communities then we need healthy marriages.

lMarriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure (NIV)  Heb 13:4
  • honour (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) (Amp) Heb 13:4

I was  so inspired by an email I received recently about Billy (the famous American Evangelist) & Ruth Graham, who were married for 64 years!

Billy & Ruth Graham

Married 1943 – 2007 (64yrs)

The day before Ruth's death (in 2007), Billy said: "Ruth is my soul mate and best friend, and I cannot imagine living a single day without her by my side. I am more and more in love with her today than when we first met over 65 years ago as students at Wheaton College." 

Their eldest daughter, Virginia or Gigi, said the following about her parents: “From the time I was a small girl, I knew my mother and daddy loved each other. It was obvious. Each time Daddy entered the room Mother’s eyes lit up and I knew that she felt her heart ‘rise within her.’ He was quick to hold her close, grasp her hand, or give her a tender kiss. It was clear to all that they adored one another and were in love.”

How do you remain in love like this for 64 years? Gigi explains: “As I grew older I realized that my parent’s love for one another was deeper than just the look in their eyes each time one of them came into the room. Their love was based on more than their physical and emotional attraction. It was based on solid, uncompromising commitment — first to Jesus Christ, second to the institution of marriage, and then commitment 

to each other.”

Unfortunately, so many people today do base their love on physical and emotional attraction, but not Billy & Ruth. They did not however, have a perfect marriage, as Gigi remembers: “Sometimes, unobserved by us, there were disagreements. Afterward, Mother would share with her pen, ‘nights can be so very long when hearts are far that should be near.’ However, Mother & Daddy have allowed their differences to strengthen their relationship.”

A huge challenge to their relationship was the amount of time that Billy was away on ministry trips. “I asked Mother how she endured so many years of goodbyes. She said, ‘Make the least of all that goes and the most of all that comes’" said Gigi.

Ruth stayed at home with their five children and their second daughter Anne recalls: “My mother taught me by her example that Jesus is everything. He was the wellspring of her love and joy and peace that overflowed into our home. His presence was enough to ease the pain of her loneliness without Daddy. His power was enough to get her through the day, for all practical purposes, as a single parent. I have no doubt that the reason I love Jesus and I love my Bible is because she did… she planted those seeds in my heart long ago.”

Before Ruth passed away Gigi wrote: “Recently, Mother was in the hospital. Daddy, also frail and not well, came to visit. I stood back and observed these two very dear lovers as he entered the room. Her eyes once again lit up. As he made his way to her bedside, he tottered and almost lost his balance. Leaning over, he bent down and gently, tenderly kissed her. It was obvious that her desire and prayer as a young bride to ‘never let it end, God, never’ had been answered.”

We honour you - Billy & Ruth Graham!

Married 1943 – 2007 (64yrs)

(The information contained in the email I mentioned was from Cindy and Steve Wright. You can find out more about their ministry at marriagemissions.com. or you can subscribe to their email.)